Healing after divorce - Does Time Heal All Wounds?
“Time does not heal all wounds, it just gives them space to sink into the subconscious, where they will still impact your emotions and behavior. What heals is going inward, loving yourself, accepting yourself, learning a technique for letting go, listening to your intuition.” Yung Pueblo
The initial grief and despair associated with the loss of my marriage was unbearable. The pain brought me to my knees, was palpable and unrelenting. The intense emotions overtook my body and soul, sending me into a tailspin.
The passage of time helped to ease my pain and lessen its emotional intensity, but its effect was short-lived. Once my initial grief passed, things started to settle but the underlying feelings of abandonment, betrayal, anger, and resentment continued to fester under the surface.
As cliché as it sounds, you hold the keys to your own healing and transformation. Time can only do so much. I had to dig deep to find my “keys”. My experience was much like rummaging through my junk drawer in frustration though, only then to come up empty handed and relentlessly searching the whole house to find they were hanging at my front door in plain view all along. The struggle is real!
Doing the inner work is messy and confronting your own subconscious conditioning is hard and can be a very lonely journey. That’s why it’s so important to reach out and get the support you need, whether that be a coach, counsellor, friend, loved one, or all the above. There is no need to walk the path alone when others have already paved the way and are there to walk along side you.
Relying on the passage of time alone to heal may help you progress from drowning to treading water but if you want to swim with ease and enjoy it, find the courage to look deep within yourself and confront those limiting beliefs that have been holding you back. Embrace the power of choice and release what's no longer serving you.
If you’d like to jump in and dive deeper, reach out and book your free 30 min consultation call today. I would love to connect!
Sending you all love and warm wishes.